Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be ace-ing all areas of your life? What would that look like? What would it feel like? Most importantly, does it seem possible to you?
I write this because of the enormous amount of conversations I’ve had over the years: many people making statements along the lines of ‘I always have great friendships but I really struggle with romantic relationships, I’m just not meant to meet someone’, or ‘I’d love to move forward with my career but I don’t have what it takes to get up and present to a room’ or ‘I’m awful with money, I’m not the sort of person that is any good at business, I can’t ask for it’ These sort of statements are often delivered as ‘facts’, there is a certain resignation that this is ‘just how things are’. These statements are extremely limiting to personal growth and expansion. Said enough times, with enough conviction they become self-fulfilling prophecies, a belief after all is simply a chronic thought. These kind of statements are the antithesis of magnetic, indeed they are repellent to you attracting your hearts desires.
Admittedly, some things come much easier to some of us than others. If you grew up with loving parents who had a stable, solid relationship it will likely be much easier for you to attract and choose a good partner than someone who grew up with the opposite. Does this mean that the individual who experienced a negative, withholding, traumatic or shattered home cannot find a good partner? No, but in many cases the individual will have to work on healing these wounds in order to do that. They may not have naturally aced it with ease previously, but with the right work, focus and dedication to facing it, it is entirely possible and highly likely that they will attract a good partner.
The truth is, if there are areas of your life that are not working despite your consistent, conscious efforts & desire to make it so, there will be a reason. Underpinning your frustration at not being able to flow, build or ace this specific area of areas of your life, there will be powerful subconscious beliefs and patterns holding you back. It’s not, contrary to popular belief, down to your lack of ‘luck’. ‘Luck’ is an interesting one: in my experience, and from what I have witnessed over the years with my clients, good luck occurs when our subconscious desires are aligned with our conscious desires. When this happens we really can begin to move forward freely, unobstructed, attracting what we want and going for what we want from a place of positive yet relaxed expectation. This is not to say life is without it’s challenges, but they will be better challenges for you to overcome, not those of being stuck in a loop of frustration and inner resistance.
If something still isn’t working and hasn’t worked for a long time, then it’s really important to both bring awareness to it and fully own it. Without this there is little hope of true, transformational change.
Sure, it may be easier in the short term to wish things were different, or wait for a magical external solution, or continue blaming other people, outside circumstances, fate or your ‘bad luck’ but how’s that working out for you?
I want to be clear here that I am differentiating between tough external situations in life which require change – i.e. moving jobs, leaving a difficult relationship or getting out of a toxic environment of any kind, usually once these externals have been resolved wellbeing and happiness can return, and what are long serving, unhelpful and stubborn patterns in ones life.
Admitting and facing these areas often takes real courage and I fully empathise it isn’t easy, but after 13 years in practice I am yet to see a viable alternative if you really do want to have the best life possible, if you want to look back and say ‘I really aced that!’.
In summary: if you’re not ace-ing it, try facing it, you have nothing to lose but the pain of old limitations and it will give you the opportunity to become your best possible self.
I, for one, believe we all deserve a proper shot at that!