Johnny & Amber – Why The ‘Why’ Is More Important Than The ‘What’

Johnny And Amber

If you’re someone who has the slightest interest in current affairs, then the last thing you probably need to read is yet another semi-informed examination of who’s to blame in the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard three-ring libel circus currently playing out in a Virginian courtroom.

I’m not going to add to the noise of speculation. In the end, each of them claims to have been abused by the other, and there’s been plenty of evidence presented to the court to suggest that perhaps that’s the closest we’ll ever get to the truth of the abuse question. 

Perhaps the most important thing to take away from the court case that’s being played out minute by minute on US daytime TV is a be...

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It’s Time To Give Mental Health The Hollywood Treatment

Mental Health Hollywood

If you’re a film buff, chances are you’ll have seen The Batman – on the surface yet another rehash of a cinematic franchise, but in reality, one of the darkest and most disturbing films you’ll see on the big screen this year.

In the 1960s world of Adam West’s Batman, Bruce Wayne’s caped crusader alter ego was, inevitably, the matinee idol stereotype of the good guy (albeit with a somewhat camp style and corny gag portfolio) roaring to the rescue in the Batmobile from a cave almost certainly borrowed from the Thunderbirds set.

Yet, right from the outset the original DC Comics back story to Wayne’s metamorphosis into so-called superhero was unremittingly dark: after witnessing his par...

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Are You OK Will?

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So, Will Smith and Chris Rock at the Oscars, eh?

Right now, you can’t hear yourself think over the sound of the internet breaking as people watch and then re-watch – probably several times and always open-mouthed – the moment when Hollywood A-lister Smith lopes over to the stage and hits Rock over an ill-considered gag about the actor’s wife.

Plenty – and I do mean plenty – has been said over the last week about the rights and wrongs of this unsavoury contretemps, and I’m not about to add my own fuel to that particular fire other than to say that to differing degrees both men were right and both men were wrong, and you need to judge for yourself the morality of each...

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#ThatGirl And The Inversion Of Wellness

#ThatGirl

Even those without a Tik Tok or Instagram account can’t have failed to notice the increasing appearance in daily life of the #ThatGirl hashtag that has overrun the lifestyle media online, in print and across television.

For those who have either managed to miss it, or who have seen the phrase but don’t know what means, the #ThatGirl is the hashtag that’s been given to a lifestyle revolution among young, digitally active younger women promoting what can only really be described as a seriously hardcore healthy lifestyle.

We’re talking a daily ritual of unrelenting avocado obsession, high intensity workouts, the consumption of litres of water, gratitude journals & seemingly endless time ...

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How To Hypnotise A Nation

Mass Formation Hypnosis

Is it possible to hypnotise an entire nation? The truth may surprise you.

My mission in life is to help people overcome the emotional and psychological challenges they face in their lives. 

Sometimes – often, in fact – the origins of the problems I treat lie buried deep in the past and it takes years of training and experience I have to help my clients meet and address them.

But my training wasn’t always just limited to therapeutic practice. Once upon a time, I also trained in stage hypnosis. I did it because i was curious about the different aspects of the master tool that is hypnosis. 

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New Year, Real You

Authentic Self

How many emails have you opened in the first three weeks of 2022 that have had a version of ‘New Year, new you’ in the subject line? If you’re anything like me then I’m guessing it’s a lot.

Sometimes it’s felt like I can’t open my inbox without being drowned in a deluge of messages exhorting me to take up yoga, ‘do’ Dry January, rethink my entire wardrobe, find that dream job or book a summer holiday – all in the name of reinventing myself.

Three paragraphs in feels too early to go down the sweary path, but the whole ‘New Year, new you’ thing is all bollocks. Really, you’re fine just the way you are – and if anything, you probably need to be more of who y...

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The Wounding Power Of Narcissistic Shame

Narcissistic Wounding

History is littered with people whose behaviour has been so outrageously self-serving that they have become poster boys and girls for narcissism and you really don’t have to search too hard or too far back to find them.

Adolf Hitler is perhaps the most obvious and dangerous example from the last century, but the most recent ex-President of the United States of America is a more contemporary example who deserves to share the same sentence.

In between there are plenty more celebrities, both minor and major, whose public behaviour and verbal outpourings can easily be described as being narcissistic.

From Joan Crawford’s emotionall...

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It’s Christmas – Go Directly To Jail, Do Not Pass Go, Do Not Collect £200

Christmas mental health

Christmas, eh? Sleigh bells softly ringing, snow on the ground, a fire crackling in the grate. A bronzed turkey alongside a studded glazed ham. Little sausages wrapped in bacon. The perfect tree. The perfect presents. The perfectly perfect pine-scented Christmas you ever did see, or even imagine.

Look, we all need a bit of a pick-me-up after the year we’ve had (and if you’re wondering what sort of year we’ve had, check out my blog on how to stay sane in a world of pain for the litany of misery we’ve endured), but there’s no point in being totally delusional about it.

Christmas is never perfect.

There. I’ve said it.

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How To Support Yourself When Suffering From Seasonal Affective Disorder

Seasonal affective disorder

If you follow these articles regularly, you’ll know that recently I’ve covered some fairly dark subject matter – from why Facebook and the metaverse pose a threat to your mental health and how the relentless onslaught of bad news is driving anxiety and depression to record levels.

This piece also deals with some dark thoughts, but this time the darkness is literal, rather than metaphorical.

As I write this, we’re now just three weeks from the shortest day of the year. This is, of course, a ludicrous description since it has just as many hours as the other 365 days of this year – it’s just that marginally more of the 24 that make up December 21st are spent in the dark.

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How To Stay Sane In A World Of Pain

how to stay sane

Now, more than ever before, it seems as though we’re being buried under a relentless torrent of news that paints a pretty miserable picture of a world in which there appears to be precious little cheer.

The litany of bad news is extensive.

The surge in Covid cases that is overwhelming Western Europe and plunging society back into lockdown; the deaths of 27 migrants whose boat sank in the English Channel; an imploding energy market putting utility companies out of business; rocketing fuel prices; the ongoing climate crisis; allegations of Tory sleaze; children murdered on the streets of London and parents murdered in their homes …

The list goes on,...

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