Many of you will have made New Year’s Resolutions, and I’m sure you were determined and steadfast in your absolute conviction that you would carry them through. But as the weeks pass, you can feel yourself waning with a never ending stream of justification as to why you are unable to keep on track, with exercise, healthy eating, reducing alcohol intake or all three.
You may well feel that sense of despair, disappointment and frustration, because there is a part of you that was absolutely convinced that you meant business this time. You declared it to all those around you, because you felt in that moment that you could trust yourself that nothing would get in your way. But it has, and you may well be wondering what went wrong. Well, let me explain about your ‘saboteur’. There are different parts of you: there is your conscious mind, the part of you that makes the decisions and uses willpower and intent to carry them through to a conclusion. Then there is your subconscious mind, and this is the part that is basically running the show when it comes to making significant changes in your life. Unless your powerful subconscious is in agreement, it will likely sabotage all your efforts, simply because it wants to maintain the status quo. It is a force to be reckoned with, and will not relinquish control unless it is convinced that your lofty idealistic changes are for your highest and best interest.
The subconscious is like a 9 year old child, and let’s face it, what would a 9 year old know about what is best for you? Obviously as the adult you’re the one who has the wisdom and knowledge, but your subconscious needs to be persuaded. It is time to bring in the “Negotiator”. This process of negotiation requires a mode of communication that is gentle yet persuasive, rather than “do as your told or else” approach, which is more likely to cause a rebellion. Imagine, if you will, carefully prizing away a child’s comfort blanket. There will be resistance, and perhaps even a few tantrums, but with reasoning, intercession and using the correct language and tonality, eventually the objective is achieved.
This is where Hypnotherapy is invaluable, opening direct communication with your subconscious and creating a resolution that is in alignment with your conscious intent. No more disappointments and despair, just a natural sense of control, power and achievement.