I imagine most people would agree that bullies are a nuisance, and that’s putting it mildly. I’m sure at some point in our lives, we have all experienced being bullied, intimidated, coerced and victimized, and I think we would also agree that it doesn’t feel good. In fact, it can stir up some very uncomfortable feelings, ranging from indignation, fear, sadness and hurt. Some of us will come out fighting, and other’s may retreat and just hope that the person responsible will eventually leave us alone. As a way of coping with the stress posed by this external threat, albeit an individual or group, we may try to be overly nice to compensate, or seek ways of remaining safe, by being hyper alert and trying to anticipate their behaviour. In doing so, we end up compromising ourselves, creating incredible stress and living in a state of anxiety. If our exposure to this level of anxiety continues, and panic ensues, then our self esteem is compromised and damaged. Once our self esteem starts plummeting, then most areas of our lives are negatively influenced. Over an extended period of time, we become a shadow of our former selves, unless we find a way to cope by seeking support, help and advice.
Yes, it is hard to imagine that we would tolerate being bullied. However, some of us may be ‘bullying’ ourselves, without even realizing it. We have become so accustomed to that niggling internal voice in our heads that always seems to air on the side of negativity, that we hardly even notice it anymore, or question it for that matter. It has become so engrained in our subconscious mind, that we feel it is our authentic selves. Well, it is not! In actual fact, it is the polar opposite to who we really are. We have allowed ourselves to be bullied for so long by a constant drip of lies and rubbish, it feels innate. All those negative thoughts, beliefs and behaviours affect our bodies bio-chemically, and it is not surprising that our self esteem is low as a result. We are our own worst enemy. It would be easier to go and purchase some cat-o-nine tails and walk around flogging ourselves on the back, or better still, get someone else to do it, then at least we do not have to add blame and guilt to the stock pile. But, the truth is, we have allowed that ‘bully’ part of us free reign for too long, and like any bully that is not confronted, they can get a bit too full of themselves. This is where Hypnotherapy for Self Esteem can help confront, and eventually eliminate our internal demon. We can re-programme our subconscious mind to a new default setting of positivity that facilitates an internal dialogue of ease, joy and kindness that will feel infinitely better than all those negative feelings from the past. We can, once and for all, put that bully in its place, and cease with the judgements and criticisms. Ultimately we can learn the value of a positive mind-set, high self esteem and consequently enjoy how our external reality starts to reflect this new sense of well-being.