How we form, develop and maintain our intimate relationships relies on different dynamics, behaviours and beliefs, many of which are formed at an early age and which often remain unchanged as we transition into adulthood.
Outdated beliefs and a flawed approach to self-love can often lead to negative issues and behaviours relating to love, sexuality and pleasure.
Changing entrenched negative or outdated beliefs can be difficult because we are emotionally tied to them and they form the default setting we revert to when we’re faced with a challenging experience or relationship and we need to find a way to cope.
Trauma can play a big role in issues of sexuality and love and our approach to therapy and coaching acknowledges how trauma plays a role in the forming of our core beliefs and survival strategies that shape our attitudes to intimacy.
Our sessions for love, relationship and sexuality issues take a holistic view of the problem, and our coach and therapist address a number of issues including;
• Libido issues
• Erectile Dysfunction
• Performance anxiety and premature ejaculation
• No orgasms with self and/or partner/s
• Body image and genital dissatisfaction
• Lack of pleasure in sex or life
• Inability to relax or switch off
• Inability to identify or communicate sexual needs
• Shame and guilt about fantasies or experiences
• Sex and intimacy issues following life events (e.g. childbirth, illness, menopause, ageing, etc.)
• Bereavement and loss of intimacy
• Body image and self-love
• Affairs, separation & divorce
We have two specialists working in this field. Emma Spiegler is our Love, Relationships and Sexuality Coach and Lottie Passell-Syms is our Psychosexual Therapist.
Working with Emma
Emma is our Love, Relationships and Sexuality Coach. Her work is both groundbreaking & cutting edge in the field of sexuality and love. Emma offers a structured and results based coaching method to expertly guide people to connect with their untapped body wisdom. Tuning into the body and creating a dialogue between your subconscious and conscious mind is often the missing piece to getting what you really desire.
Emma works from a trauma informed perspective that includes the science of the nervous system and addresses the deep-rooted core beliefs and survival strategies we take on as children or at certain points in our adulthood that have become outdated.
Our deeply-held beliefs around love, sex and relationships are how our brains have become wired: the primal brain is responsible for our instinctive fight, flight, and freeze responses and it’s this part of our brain along with the limbic system part of our brain that holds the imprints of our early experiences.
The body and mind are intrinsically linked together – emotional stress manifests in physical issues, and so deep and long-lasting transformation happens when we include our bodies in the coaching process.
Emma will guide you to uncover and dissolve subconscious blocks to create new neural pathways leading to deep transformation in the areas of self-love, relationships and sexuality. Her sessions include a range or powerful tools and techniques that will:
Support the nervous system and build emotional resilience
Connect you with your sexual energy and release shame, guilt and fear
Help you to create new empowering narratives to move you towards your goals
Teach the power of breath work and ritual to form a bridge between the unconscious and conscious
Working with Lottie
Lottie is our Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist and she works with individuals and couples who would like to explore love, intimacy, sex and dysfunction to reconnect with each other restore a balance for a more fulfilling sexual vision.
During her sessions, Lottie will explore feelings, thoughts and behaviours with her clients to help them better understand the causes of the issues they’re dealing with and, in the case of couples, understand the part they may be playing in creating or maintaining those problems.
We have the ability to maintain cultural past traits that play out negatively in the present. Having an awareness of this can be a game changer for your relationship. The sessions for both individuals and couples look at the dynamics of the relationship, attachment style, communication, conflict, desire and drive.
Lottie also specialises in working with male and female dysfunction, helping you talk openly to find ways of identifying the problem and using effective techniques and tools to help you overcome it.
She is a specialist in LGBT-specific issues, transition, gender, sexual identity and preference, working with the diversity of the relationship to explore, and give space to be curious about, your sexual identity.
Lottie sessions include a range of techniques and tools that will:
Encourage you to talk about sex
Discover what sex means to you
Develop your communication skills
Allow you to understand that conflict is growth.
Enable body awareness and allow you to understand how it works
Enhance your sexual vision
Help couples stay together
Tackle crisis and help you to negotiate.
Create a children’s charter, where appropriate
Lottie offers a confidential space for you to explore and understand your own blueprint for relationships, love and sex.