Have you ever wanted to change, grow or move forward, only to find another part of you pulling in the opposite direction? You set the goal, make the plan, feel the motivation…and then somehow slip back into the old pattern. Procrastination creeps in. Confidence disappears. The same toxic relationship, or the same missed opportunity, repeats itself.

This is self-sabotage, and it is far more common than most people realise. It is rarely about laziness or a lack of willpower. In my experience, it is usually a subconscious survival pattern rooted in fear, conditioning or old shame.

In this article, I will explain why self-sabotage happens and how subconscious healing and hypnotherapy can help break the cycle for good. As a certified ...

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Every so often, a new term takes the stage in neurodiversity discourse. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. Revenge Bedtime Procrastination. Pathological Demand Avoidance. Time Agnosia.

And every time, the same debate erupts: Are we creating helpful frameworks for understanding, or are we just pathologising normal human experiences? Are we giving people language to describe their reality, or are we encouraging them to pathologise themselves? And don’t we have enough words already for the exact same things?

I think ...

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Telling someone you’re neurodivergent can feel like a huge leap into the unknown. Will they understand? Will they be supportive? Or will they dismiss your experience entirely?

Whether you’ve been recently diagnosed with ADHD, autism, or another form of neurodivergence, or have come to understand your ND-self through self-identification, deciding who to tell, how, and when is deeply personal. For many, it’s a milestone that brings relief, vulnerability, and fear all at once.

As a neurodivergent therapist and neurodiversity coach at Zoe Clews & Associates, I support clients navigating the co...

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Have you ever walked away from a relationship feeling utterly drained, confused, or doubting your own reality? This could be a sign you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse. Unlike physical abuse, narcissistic abuse is often hidden and subtle, but its psychological impact can be just as devastating—sometimes even more so.

As a narcissistic abuse recovery therapist and trauma-informed hypnotherapist, I work with individuals who have endured this complex form of abuse. In this article, I’ll explain what narcissistic abuse is, how it shows up in relationships, and why recognising the signs is such an important step towards healing.

What Is Narcissistic Abuse?...

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Do you ever feel like you’ve tried everything to lose weight — diets, workouts, mindset shifts — yet your body still seems to hold on, no matter what you do?

If so, it’s not because you lack willpower. It’s because your body might be protecting you.

In this article, we’ll explore the relationship between trauma and weight — how the body’s survival mechanisms, emotional memories, and nervous system responses can quietly influence metabolism, eating patterns, and self-image. Most importantly, we’ll look at how trauma-informed approaches and...

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Do you ever feel like past trauma still controls your present, no matter how much time has passed? Many people living with PTSD or Complex PTSD (CPTSD) struggle with flashbacks, overwhelming emotions, and a nervous system that never feels safe. These experiences can be exhausting and isolating.

As a trauma-informed hypnotherapist and PTSD therapist, I’ve supported countless clients in using hypnotherapy for trauma recovery. In this blog, we’ll explore how hypnotherapy for PTSD and ...

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Have you ever searched “help with sex life” or “intimacy issues help” and felt instantly overwhelmed by the options of what will help you? You see titles like “sex therapist near me,” “certified sex coach,” and even “online sex therapy UK,” and the immediate confusion sets in: Which professional do I actually need? This is a completely common dilemma, and it’s one that stops many people from getting the vital support they deserve.

In this a...

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Have you ever wondered why some people seem to struggle more than others with workplace stress or conflict, even when nothing “big” has happened? Trauma is not about what happens to us, it’s about how we process it and the impact it has on us later on. 

70% of people will experience something as being traumatic in their lifetime and that means consequences down the line for our mental wellbeing. Autistic people and those with other neurodivergent conditions (ADHD, Dyspraxia, Dyslexia, Dyscalculia and related) have neurodevelopmental differences that compound this and 80% of neurodivergent people will in any case have a co-occurring everyday mental health condition such as anxiety, depression and OCD.

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Over the last few days, former Wham! manager Simon Napier-Bell has suggested that George Michael may have been tortured by a childhood secret that proved to be both the singer’s inspiration and his curse.

Michael was, of course, a global superstar, recognised as one of the most gifted songwriters of his generation. A string of bubblegum hits in the Eighties with Wham! made him the bedroom-wall-pin-up for teen girls – and some teen boys – around the world.

And as he outgrew the sockless deck shoes and coiffured highlights and forged a more contemporary image rendered in brooding charcoal and black and punctuated by goatees and designer shades, his songwriting became similarly substantial...

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Rachel Watson, the girl on the train in Paula Hawkins’ searing bestseller published two years ago, is a woman living on the precipice of her own sanity. She stares into the black abyss of total emotional loss on an almost daily basis.

In the novel, Rachel is a functioning alcoholic divorcee who is kept from being engulfed by the hollowness of her own existence only through an irrational preoccupation with the lives of a couple whose house her train passes every day on its way into London.

It is this thread alone that barely tethers her to the here and now and the reality of who she is and what she stands for.

‘I want to drag knives over my skin, just ...

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