Without clarity in our lives we tend to drift around like rudderless ships. One of the keys to finding clarity in our life is listening to our intuition and if we don’t, we will be buffeted around by the winds of others wills and desires. At best we will end up feeling somewhat dissatisfied, at worst deeply resentful. In truth it is your right to look inside yourself for answers. We’re defining intuition here as a potent form of inner wisdom, not mediated by the intellect or logical conscious mind. Intuition is accessible to us all, and it’s a still, small voice inside. I think of intuition as an unflinching truth-teller committed to our well-being.

So if we all have it, why do some of us struggle so incessantly with trusting ourselves?

Well, simply because we are not taught to, we are often taught by our caregivers to trust others above ourselves and this reinforced by others around us as children, such as teachers or other figures of authority in regular proximity. If the subconscious mind, which simply doesn’t understand time, has learnt this at an early age then it continues playing out the unhelpful belief system that ‘others know best’. This combined with fear, external pressure or low self-esteem can seriously get in the way and prevent you from listening to, and most importantly acting upon, your gut feelings.

The truth is self trust is like a muscle, the more you use it the stronger it becomes. It’s the best friend you will ever have and I encourage you strongly to develop it. If you’re struggling I suggest you reach back in your experience, see if you can remember a time when you really listened, to what seemed invisible but felt really true. Perhaps it was an inner call to change direction or make a decision that felt ‘out of the blue’, this indisputable sense of ‘rightness’ is what I’m talking about, when you ‘just know without knowing why you know’. The good news is that you can have this experience more and more, this wonderful certainty about your decisions. Like everything it gets better with practice. By this I mean not only practicing listening to, but, acting upon that information. If it feels challenging straight off start with smaller decisions and then work outwards from there, building that self trust muscle like you would your abs!

Our intuition is like our internal satellite navigation system, albeit with a quieter voice, but if we continue to listen to it, it will never let us down. The other good news? The more ferociously faithful you are to your own truth the more energised and happier you’ll be. What are you waiting for?

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About Zoë Clews

Zoë Clews is the founder of Zoë Clews & Associates and is one of the most successful and sought-after hypnotherapists working in the UK today. She has spent the last 17 years providing exclusive, highly-effective hypnotherapy treatment to a clientele that includes figures in the public eye, high net worth individuals and professionals at the top of their careers. An expert in all forms of hypnotherapy treatment, Zoë is a specialist in issues relating to anxiety, trauma, self-esteem and confidence. She works with nine Associates who are experts in their own fields and handpicked for their experience and track records of success, providing treatment for an extensive range of conditions that include addiction, weight loss, eating disorders, relationships, love and sex, children’s issues, fertility problems, phobias, Obsessive Compulsive Disorders and sleep issues.  She takes inspiration from her own emotional journey and works with both individuals and blue-chip corporates who want to provide mindfulness support for their people either on a regular or occasional basis, or as part of an employee benefit scheme.